At some point, I asked myself what I could share when the question is posed of what to do when you feel bad about yourself. Sometimes things don’t work out as we had hoped they would. Sometimes we feel so certain things will go well, but there was a different agenda that took over. The question then becomes, “how did I miss this?“
The most valuable lessons in life happen abruptly. They give us no time to assess ourselves or the way we feel, they simply leave us breathless, angry, emotional, torn, confused, or an array of emotions that affect your entire day. Next, we find ourselves asking Google, “what to do when we feel bad about yourself.”
We are only imperfectly, yet perfectly, human. We are destined to make mistakes, but we can choose not to live in the pain forever. On my blog, I plan to share some content that will inspire healing for anyone who needs it, and for myself, especially if you are researching what to do when you feel bad about yourself. Review the plan below and follow my blog to stay in tune with your emotions and focused on your self-love plan.
The Plan for what to do when you feel bad about yourself
The first step to planning what to do when you feel bad about yourself is to find a solution for the overall problem. That solution isn’t easy to find, so I will start this off with something I am personally doing.
Over the next 60 days, I want to make it a point to share one quote a day, a resource you might find useful, one piece of knowledge and insight into my personal journey, and one self-love exercise. With this, I want to encourage myself and anyone who needs it to heal from the sadness we have created in ourselves from things not going exactly as we had hoped. This expectation led us to seek out what to do when you feel bad about yourself.
Before I begin, grab out a journal or open a blank text file on your computer. Here is what we will do:
- Write the date at the top
- Write the quote I am sharing below
- Write down your plan for the day
- Write one thing you hope to accomplish today
- Identify one strong feeling you feel right now (just one. For ex: I feel sadness.)
- Draw the first thing that comes to mind (Note: no judging yourself for your art skills, it can be as simple as a heart or a star.)
The quote for today comes from an old movie called, “The Wizard of Oz.”
After writing the quote and all the pieces of the journal entry, write how you will use this quote today in solving the problem of what to do when you feel bad about yourself.
An Extra Resource for Rebuilding Self-Love
The first resource I want to share on what to do when you feel bad about yourself is the amazing work of Brene Brown. Brene Brown is a researcher/storyteller who talks a lot about vulnerability, empathy, and wholeheartedness. Her amazing Ted Talks will undoubtedly leave a mark on you in a very positive way. In her own words:
Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.Dr. Brene Brown
Here are her ted talks:
Why I am doing the Plan
The reason I am doing this blog series is that I want to remind myself that life is a process of growing, breaking down, and growing some more. I forgot how important it is to feel anything, good or bad. I want to feel the emotions, good or bad, and try to not judge myself as I find my way back to center. I want to know that whether someone thinks highly of me or not, that it isn’t as important as what I think of myself. This is the beginning of the path of how to identify what to do when you feel bad about yourself.
I want to cry when I feel like I want to, and I want to be free to laugh and experience joy when I know it is necessary. This is because life is challenging, and BIG emotions are even more challenging.
Self-love isn’t an easy thing to accomplish and fear is easy to give into. Not every person who loves you will make an effort to understand you, and not every person who loves you will love themselves enough to want more for you and/or for themselves.
I am learning, in a rather unexpected way, that rejection doesn’t have to be so painful. Rejection has a way of showing us where we need to do some work. Rejection leads down two paths; the one that speaks to the inner child and the one that speaks to our deepest feelings about ourselves. The way I see it, rejection shows us that the people we most desire may not be the people who last for more than a reason or a season in our lives.
As I learned yesterday when my feelings are suffocating me when I feel too much at once and the air feels dense and filled with fear, I place one hand on my heart, and one hand on my stomach and I speak lovingly to myself. I remind myself how strong and how powerful I am, and how I can and will survive whatever hardships my Lord has created for me to grow.
Every day we are growing, and every day we will feel a little bit better about who we are meant to be because all the sadness will eventually turn into love and the right person will dive into the love and appreciate it for all it is.
Quick Exercise To Unblock Yourself Right Now
The last step of answering the question of what to do when you feel bad about yourself is to do a simple self-love exercise. If you do nothing else today, try one thing for yourself. This exercise is designed to bring you back to center and remind you of how incredible and powerful you are. Here is the simple exercise:
- Go to any mirror
- Look at yourself in the mirror for one whole minute. (Set a timer if you can)
- After one minute, speak one kind thing to yourself. Speak it out loud so you can hear it.
- If you don’t feel the words are coming in clean, speak it again and again until you feel the words washing over you and infecting you with love and positivity.
- After you know you have those words in you, begin your day or begin your day again with these words in your mind.
This simple exercise will encourage you to believe in yourself. Confidence is attractive and essential in everyday life and it takes simple exercises like this to build that confidence. You are not broken, this is part of the process of answering what to do when you feel bad about yourself.